Submissives and slaves please note.
The following is a copy of an email I received recently which is a perfect example of what NOT to do. First of all, it is obvious from the email that this individual has sent the same copy out to more than likely hundreds of women, Professional or amateur, this type of person doesn't really care in the least. Second, when it is obvious that the applicant has not even bothered to take the time to read about ME personally, my attitudes and approach, why on earth would I want to have the creature in My House? I really couldn't give a stuff about your looks, good looking men are often as boring as hell.
hello Goddess,
I am a nice sub, 39, engineer,
speaks 5 languages,
Handsome.
I am looking for a Mistress to be her housemaid/foot slave on a long term permanent relationship in her house.
Will do everything for Her.
Your FEET on my head.
al
Are there any slaves who can spot why this type of approch is most unsuitable? I'd be interested in your responses.
Comments
View from a ex-slave
That subject seems almost humorous when I read it, how is one a 'ex-slave' by any definition. Anyway, off to answering : When I was living in Sydney I attended a few private BDSM play parties. Some of these were amazing, and I felt quite at home in many of them. One time a Mistress there asked of the male submissives a simple question 'You are going to meet a prospective play partner for the first time, you have been talking for a while about it, but this is your first proper 'meeting'. What do you bring?'
Answers were flung around from the several male subs in the room, answers such as 'toys' 'a lot of money' and a variety of other kink-while things. Not one there said anything like 'chocolates' or 'roses' or anything nice and formal.
Play is good, but what really attracts someone to a play partner? It's usually not their looks, in actual fact, it's usually their minds. The way a sub/slave thinks is probably the thing a Dominant is most interested in, is it not about the psychology more than anything else?
I'll rewrite it to what I might say, but it's unlikely I would ever propose to someone in this manner in the first place, so it's likely quite badly written :)
Greetings *honorific title here if it's known that she likes one, otherwise, use her name, or if you think she is extremely strict, leave it out*
My name is -----. I am -- years old, and very interested in some of your own interests. I would love to get to know you if time permits, as you seem to me like someone I am on the same level with. If you are interested, would you like to meet for coffee *or your drink of choice* somewhere in the city? My shout, of course.
I've attached a picture of myself, don't worry, it's clothed *smiles*
Hoping to hear from you soon *add name/honorific again*,
----
Well at least that would be my way of approaching the situation. But like I said, I doubt I would approach someone like that at all.
K
"Your FEET on my head" How
"Your FEET on my head"
How are You going to keep Your feet constantly on his head? Cut his head in half and wear them as slippers? *Shudder* imagine how many people could find You simply by following the trail of blood! i can just see it now, Mistress Amanda trying to hide in a dark corner/closet to get some privacy and a trail of blood leading to Her hidey hole. 'Spose it gives a whole new meaning to watching where You walk though.
On a serious note, he doesn't talk at all about what he can do for You, and he doesn't take into consideration that other people have worked hard to earn Your trust and show You how they can be honest, reliable, and useful in order to earn such a position.
Add to that, girls are better than boys anyway *grin*
cheers
Moi
Hello Mistress Amanda How
Hello Mistress Amanda
How are you? Well I hope :-)
In regards to the the above mentioned email, basically
1. it sounds impersonal
2. Doesn't appear he's concerned as to what the Mistress might or might not want
3. Its to the point at least, but its too brief to be of any help to anyone.
4. In a nutshell, its unbalanced. Two to Tango as they say. He's dancing by himself :-)
G
poor slave application
Hi Mistress Amanda
I believe it is a poor application for a slave position because
1) He called you Goddess, you have regularly railed against that tag in your forums , so he has obviously not read them
2) He speaks about himself and what he wants , it reads a bit like a session script where he is listing what you'll do to make him happy.
3) He talks about how nice ( handsome ) he looks, not about his experiance or any skills that he offers that you may like to take up.
4) He is not applying to you personally , he has performed a leaflet drop.
5) To be a slave he needs to concentrate on finding out what you the Mistress want , and if your needs correspond to his desires to serve then he should offer his services. It is important that the type of services the Mistress wants correspond to what the slave is capable of and actually desires or the relationship will never be satisfying to either side and will not last.
regards
Steve of Whyalla